| Table
Of Contents |
|
Acknowledgments |
xvii |
Preface |
xix |
Introduction |
xxi |
Letter to My
Children |
xxiv |
Part
One Family Violence: Child and Spousal Abuse |
|
1.
Abuse from the Beginning
|
3 |
In the Beginning
Husband's Criticism
and Father's Jealousy
Baby's Injury; Father's
Accident
Paying the Price for
Good Advice
My Cloudy
Vision
|
|
2.
Child Abuse and Wife Assault |
23 |
Abuse During Pregnancy
"One More Kiss,
Mommy"
Cervical Spine Injury
Lew's History of Abuse |
|
3.
Emotional, Verbal and Psychological Abuse |
35 |
Doctor Heal Thyself
Verbal Abuse to Intimate
Core
Abuse Is the Family
Tradition
Child Becomes Target
Mommy as Supervisor
and Peacemaker
Attacking Character
and Security |
|
4.
More Verbal Licks and Manly Punches |
48 |
Batterer's Role Reversal
Verbal Abuse: With
Escape and Where There Is None
Halloween Punch and
the Witnessing Children
Upper Middle Class
Families Have Abuse Problems, Too |
|
5.
It Is Domestic Violence, Now What? |
61 |
Marital Therapy Is Not Treatment for Abuse
Blind Blood Can't
Help, Either
My Dad's Diagnosis
Blaming
Children for the Abuse to Them |
|
6.
Welts Bring the Family Secret Out |
73 |
Beatings and Belts
Welts and Police
Domestic Battery Arrest
Order of Protection:
A Wake-Up Call
Dual Denial |
|
7.
Death Calls Before Divorce
|
85 |
Promises, Lies and
Misrepresentations
Abuse Finding by Department
of Children & Family Services
Therapist's Prognosis
on Lew's Battering
A Miraculous Union
My Dad Dies and Lew
Seeks to Stage Allies |
|
8.
Perpetrator as Legal Enemy |
98 |
The Divorce Foundation
House Victim to Court
Litigant
Another Emergency
Order of Protection |
|
9.
The Civil Finding of Abuse |
107
|
The Evidentiary Hearing
Lew's Abuse Finding
Plenary Order of Protection
|
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Part
Two Domestic Violence Transformed Into Litigation Abuse
|
|
|
121
|
Rebuilding the Nest
The Reconciliation
Offer
Abuse is About Control
Financial Control:
Litigation Control
Counsel's Reality
Shatters Mine |
|
|
131 |
Meeting Mr. Hopkins
The Stop Gap and Starve-Out
The Second Production
Air-Brushed Transcripts
Gasoline Kerosene
Socks |
|
12.
Psychologicals Tell All |
140 |
Psychologicals Tell the Inside Story
David's Alleged Facial
Tic
Professional Practice
Harassment |
|
13.
Agreed Orders Get It Done |
154 |
Financial Agreed Order
Gradually Lifting
the Supervision
Physical Endangerment
to Marc
Falling Out with Mr.
Hopkins |
|
14.
Betrayal, Betrayal, Betrayal |
167 |
Passing Time with Mr. Rosenfeld
The Missing Computer
Tapes
Lee Knohl Discloses
Court Practices
Legislators Look In
Dr. Norman Chapman
Being Pro Se |
|
15.
The Lawyers Know the Inside Story |
179 |
My Interviews with
Lawyers
Steve Stern Comes
Aboard
Chapman's Fishing
Expedition
Children Flourishing:
Brad's Party and Hospital Threat |
|
16.
Legal Psychiatric Ploys |
193 |
Fighting the Hospitalization Threat
Order for Another
100 K in Legal Fees
Dr. Freedman's Exit
The Bar Mitzvah Ploy
Dr. Heinrich and the
Restraining Order |
|
17.
Legal Domestic Abuse |
205 |
Shelter Says, "Go
Underground"
Reporting Dr. Chapman
to Authorities
David Wessel and Dr.
Chapman's Recommendations
Domestic Violence
Representative's Suggestions
A Child Advocate Steps
In |
|
18.
Heart Is Not Enough |
220 |
Mr. Leving Comes Aboard
ARDC Complaint Against
David Wessel
DPR Complaints Against
Mr. Wessel & Dr. Chapman
Escalating Abuse
Third Generation Domestic
Violence
More Discovery and
the Leving Fall Out |
|
19.
Domestic Violence: Family to Court |
235 |
Regrouping after Leving
Too Rich To Be Poor and Too Poor To Be Rich
Court as Lew's Club for Control
To Stay or Flee
Dr. Galatzer-Levy's Recommendations |
|
20.
Third Generation Domestic Violence
|
245 |
Domestic Violence Enablers
The Cycle of Violence
Supporting Battering Development
Intervention for Bradley's Violence
No Vision; No Potential for Correction |
|
21.
Gross Legal Malpractice |
259 |
The Aftermath of Brad's Transfer
Summer Vacations and Denied Phone Contact
Ongoing Battering to the Blumenthal Victims
Dr. Galatzer-Levy: The Dangling Carrot
The Un-Filed Petitions |
|
22.
Quick Protected Exit |
270 |
False Pretense Order Barring My Expert Witnesses
Sham Hearing for Murphy and Skoubis' Exit
Domestic Violence Transformed into Litigation Abuse
Falling Through the Cracks of System
Al
Toback Sees the "Battered Woman" |
|
23.
Victims Cry Out |
282 |
$40,000 Liquidated from Our Pension
Marc's Acting-Out and Suicidal Thoughts
October 19, 1998: Re-victimizing the Victims
Reaching Out to Judge Orr and Back to Mr. Stern
Another Violation of Our Order of Protection |
|
24.
Reckless Father; Careless Court |
292 |
Dr. Chapman's Perjury
The Erroneous Order
of November 10, 1998
Denial and Discount
of Recklessness
Transferring Brad's
Custody Without a Hearing
My Appeal to the Appellate
Court
The Swiss Army Knife:
Daddy's Gift
The King
Family Cruise |
|
25.
Bench Blind To The Law |
309 |
Kid's In-camera
Unlawful Ruling to Transfer Custody to Third Party
Judge's Conflict of
Interest
Petition for Substitution
of Judge Evans for Cause
The Transfer and Its
Aftermath
Lew's "Legal"
Effort to Push Mommy Further Away |
|
26.
Cover the Error; Protect the Court |
324 |
Making Movies: The
Media and Community Interest
The Cobra Perpetrator
Witnesses See Judge's
Bias, Prejudice and Partiality
Record Clarification
and Request for Ruling Correction
Judge's Disqualification
Notice
Reversal of Ruling
and of Roles in Abuse Dynamic
Marc's
Runaways and Self-Mutilation |
|
Part
Three Abuse Is A Choice For Adults Only
|
|
27.
Silencing The Victims |
341 |
Restricting Contact and Blocking Intimacy
Association for Family
Conciliation Courts
Supervisors Serve
as Silent Seal Around Abuse
Jenevieve Delk: Supervisor,
Witness and Reality Check
Lew's Baby-Sitter
Discloses the Inside Story
Marc Plans His Indiana
Runaway
Unlawful Interference
with Visitations |
|
28.
The Slander Weapon |
357 |
Lew Threatens the
Witness
The Four Year Plan
to Get Rid of Mommy
The Forceful Fart
Terminating My Visitation
Getting Rid of Jenny
Feinberg's Slander Strategy
Community
Colored by Magic Bullet |
|
29.
Being Abused Is a Choice |
376 |
My De-Slander Effort
"The Most Severe
Spousal Abuse..."
The Experts, Mom and
My Inner Voice
Who's Paying for This
Litigation?
Holocaust Decision
and Solomon Judgment
My Exit and the Body
Attachment |
|
30.
The Thinning Thread |
390 |
Brad's Run Away, Hospitalization
and Payment
Dexter Is Dead, Says
Lew's Girlfriend
Grandma Denied Contact
with Her Grandchildren
The Federal Attorney
The Dwindling E-Mail
and Telephone Connection
My
Mending and Recovery |
|
Epilogue Locked in Child
Abuse |
405 |
Appendix
A Statistics on Family Violence |
411 |
Appendix
B Cycle of
Violence |
415 |
Appendix
C Myths and Facts about Family Violence |
419 |
Author's
Final Note |
432 |
References |
433 |
About
the Author |
439 |
